My name is Melissa and I am a fortysomething recovering-journalist-turned-public relations professional from Southern California.
I grew up in the world of ballet, so sweat, pointe shoes, and celery sticks pretty much dominated most of my childhood. In case you’re wondering whether dancers are pressured to be anorexic like in the movies, it’s pretty much true (although I like eating far too much to fall for that). I weighed 120 pounds and a company in the Midwest accepted me for a summer workshop with the caveat that I lose an extra five pounds. Apparently, I was too fat.
Anyway, then came my 20s and 30s when I discovered the joys of partying, staying up all night, and eating junk food. All of that hard work pretty much went to shit.
Approaching midlife and working in high-stress fields hasn’t helped. I’ve struggled with weight gain, smoking, drinking, exhaustion, insomnia, depression and more. But like many others, I have let the years slip by without doing much about it.
Life got in the way.
The last 10 years have been a journey to turn back time – not in a Cher-plastic-surgery-prancing-around-half-naked sort of way. But in an “I’m sick of being unhappy with the way I look and feel” kind of way. I do like Cher though.
In 2007, I quit drinking. Cold turkey. I had many reasons, but mainly I got sick of the hangovers. And being overweight. And figuring out how to get home from bars without getting busted. Who am I kidding? It was mainly the hangovers.
Seven years later, I quit smoking cigarettes. I was a half to full-pack-a-day smoker for well over 20 years. Vaping (e-cigarettes) made it easier for me to wean off the cancer sticks. I carried on the e-habit another three years until this January, when I became nicotine free!
This year, 2017, is the year I’ve decided to stop putting up with all of the other garbage that has been bothering me. Between March and August, I lost 20 pounds and have gained considerable muscle tone, stamina, and agility. I work out five to seven days a week, I practice mindfulness and meditation daily, and I follow a pretty strict diet.
In a nutshell, my mindset has become one of acceptance and rejection. I accept that entering my 40s comes with some limitations – I can no longer burn the candle at both ends mentally and physically. But I reject the notion that it’s all downhill from here for my body and health.
Now, just to be clear, I’m not saying I’m perfect now. Far from it. I am a work in progress, as I am sure you are too. I make mistakes. I have bouts of anger. I eat french fries and pizza and ice cream. I get a new gray hair now and then. I have wrinkles.
I am also not any sort of guru. I’m here to share methods that have worked for me. They may or may not work for you. If you’re looking for a personal trainer, life coach, or nutritionist, I am not that person. But hopefully I can eventually point you in the right direction. Likewise, if you are a personal trainer, life coach, nutritionist or some know-it-all gym rat and you don’t like the things I say here, please….don’t hate. Go troll somewhere else.
If you happen to find inspiration from this blog, great! If that inspiration ends up changing your life, awesome! Share with the class!
Topics I hope to cover in this blog include:
- Weight loss
- Stress management
- Other miscellaneous topics
As they say, your body is a temple. Reclaim it if you’ve let life get in the way. Rejuvenate it with good habits.